Julie and I will have been married 24 years this November which is really exciting but has one really unfortunate drawback; we’ve seen a lot of marriages fall apart. This is stuff is hard. I appreciate all the work that Ryan and Selena pour into their ministry; it’s sorely needed.
I want to be careful here (I feel like I say that often) because I find when a marriage falls apart it’s usually not one transgression by one person; it’s a thousand little cuts of unresolved conflicts and unmet expectations and it’s generally shared by both people. I don’t post stuff about marriage to shame anyone because I really don’t know anyones situation. But what I really love about this statement from Ryan, especially for men, is the feeling of responsibility that men need to embrace in order to contribute positively to the marriage. It’s not waiting for the other person to change and it’s not a compromise; it’s a devotion to a biblical principle that demands that men model themselves on something that is beyond the idols of this world.
I can’t imagine any situation made worse by a man earnestly is trying to lead like Christ.